I heard something
profound yesterday. Just a comment, in passing, from an ordinary guy on the TV
who was talking about how lucky he was in his job as Liaison Officer at St Michael's Mount in Cornwall, England.
His name is Pete Hamilton and the words he used were; "I wouldn't change a
thing about my life." He then seemed a bit taken aback by his rather
weighty statement and said " hang on a minute, let me just think about
that... No, it's true; I wouldn't change a thing about my life." Then we
saw a shot of him with (I think) his baby daughter in his arms.
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| St Michael’s Mount, Marazion, Cornwall England Photo courtesy of www.stmichaelsmount.co.uk |
It was such a small moment but it had a
huge impact on me. I can't stop thinking about it - imagine being able to
honestly say that you wouldn't change ANYTHING about your life? It's kind of a
bit mind-blowing.
Of course it started me thinking about what I'd change about my life. Given this blog, it's no surprise that living more simply, free of debt and with time to do more of what makes me happy remain top of the list.
Of course it started me thinking about what I'd change about my life. Given this blog, it's no surprise that living more simply, free of debt and with time to do more of what makes me happy remain top of the list.
But even if all of those things were in place, would I/could I say that I
wouldn't change a thing? So much of what Pete Hamilton said is down to
attitude. Sure, he lives and works in a beautiful village, he's recently
married and has just started a family, exciting times all round. But I got the
sense that he's a content sort of person, that not leaving the area he has
grown up in was a conscious choice to be happy with his lot rather than a lack
of opportunity or ambition. That financial considerations are way down his list
of priorities and that his greatest joy is found in the simplest things.
I mention his having stayed near his childhood home because I wonder if my own
desire to live and work abroad (more than once) is indicative of a "grass
is greener" mentality and thus a mindset destined to disappoint? Had I
stayed in my hometown I'm pretty confident that I'd be living a simpler life;
debt-free (or at least without the huge expenses the move necessitated) and
with lots of time to do more of what makes me happy. Family support, a career
uninterrupted by further study, a home bought earlier and some bad decisions
unmade would have made that possible.
It would be disingenuous of me to suggest that I regret moving to Australia (or
the Netherlands, an earlier adventure) or any of the travel I have experienced
since I was 18 years old. I’m a firm believer in the idea that “the world is a
book, and those who do not travel read only a page” (St. Augustine) so staying
in my hometown was never a realistic option for me. Not to mention the fact
that I would have missed out on some amazing
experiences and very special friends and but still... I wonder if my desire for
“different” has in some ways limited my ability to enjoy the “everyday”.
So how do I make Mr. Hamilton’s statement true for me here and now? What steps
do I take to find contentment in what is, instead of being distracted by what
could be or what might have been?
I know I need to keep going with the things I put in motion when I started this
blog. But what else? Have you done it? Are you one of the lucky few who
wouldn't change a thing about your life? Are you working towards your own state
of contentment? Please share your ideas!
